The importance of ‘Sex for One’ 1 – masturbation and self-love are normal activities with several benefits including: helping you learn what feels good, your preferences, arousal patterns, and orgasm triggers which improve partnered sex and communication. It can help relieve sexual tension, reduce stress through endorphin/oxytocin release, help with sleep, and ease menstrual cramps for some people.
Solo play is good for emotional and mental well-being. It promotes self-acceptance, body confidence, and relaxation. It can boost your mood and reduce anxiety while providing an opportunity for sexual expression without the risk of pregnancy or STIs/STDs.2
Think of solo play as health maintenance. It can help maintain erectile function, genital blood flow and pelvic floor muscles. Solo play reinforces control over your body and boundaries which leads to greater autonomy and consent in relationships.3
Practice good hygiene: wash your hands and your toys. Use appropriate lubrication, avoid injury and be mindful of privacy. If solo play interferes with daily life, work, relationships, causes distress, or is compulsive, consider speaking with a healthcare provider or therapist.
Menopausal symptoms can be reduced with regular solo practice. The Kinsey Institute of Indiana University conducted a study of ~1500 women aged 40 to 65 and found that roughly 35% reported that masturbation helped ease at least one menopausal symptom. With solo play of three times a week, women reported a 93% improvement in symptoms, especially sleep and mood.4
2. Liu, Vic ang! Masturbation for People of All Genders and Abilities.
3. Block, Jenny. The Ultimate Guide to Solo Sex: All You Need to Know About Masturbation
4. Etherington, Julia “10- ways to improve your midlife orgasms” gathered, April 16, 2026.
